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By Calm Weddings

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You, as the bridal couple, will be centre of attention for your special day. However, don’t underestimate how many of your guests will be looking at your mothers. The mother of the bride and the mother of the groom can receive just as much attention as you! Yes, your guests will be checking out their outfits, so it’s important you take the choosing of their outfits as seriously as you take your own.

There are some traditional etiquette rules regarding the mother of the bride and her outfit. But don’t feel like these have to be followed, as there are many other wedding traditions that have changed over time too.

But for your information, if you’d like to play by the old rules, here are a few customs for you:brides mother 3

* The bride’s mother would choose her outfit before the groom’s mother.

* The bride’s mother would usually choose the same colour as the bridesmaids. The colour can be a different shade i.e. if your bridesmaids are in cerise pink, the mother of the bride may choose a paler pink.

* She would avoid outfits that are white, ivory and champagne. Plus black or red gowns.

These are just a few old-fashioned customs. Talk with your mothers about what colour and style they would prefer. For example, there are some extremely elegant outfits in white, ivory and champagne. A wide range of classy outfits in black and some stylish and refined outfits in red. So don’t rule out all of the above.

bride mother 2Your mothers need to feel comfortable on the day. If they are totally unsure where to start or they have an idea but they’re not sure how to make a certain outfit or colour work for them, well, there are plenty of people out there who can help. From colour consultants to professional shoppers. Jill Green from House of Colour, a Corporate Image Consultant & Personal Stylist has been helping women look their best for over 20 years. Jill is passionate about helping people look and feel fantastic. She offers a supportive, fun and enjoyable experience. If your mothers are needing a helping hand, Jill is definitely the lady to see. From personal shopping days to a colour and style consultation, Jill will help your mothers choose the right outfit for them. The great thing about this experience is it isn’t a one-off: your mothers can use the advice after your wedding, and continue to look great all year round.

It’s tradition to buy all the bridal party a gift to say ‘thank you for your help and being part of our day’. Why not buy your mothers an early present? Book them in with Jill … with all the wedding planning they could probably do with a nice pamper session.





Christmas is a very popular time for engagements.

Some couples have the engagement ring ready, however, many couples choose the rings together, before or after the question is asked.

One thing to think about: Will your wedding ring fit with your engagement ring?

Many couples design their own rings, this enables them to have the perfect design that suits their personality.

Mobeus understands the importance of purchasing your wedding rings. They specialise in creating bespoke wedding rings that last a lifetime

However, there isn’t just the rings to think about … Oh where to start! To help you, we’ve included an extract from Victoria J.Brown’s, The Wedding Planning Book for the Deviant Bride, to help you understand what you need to do over the next year or so! Good Luck.

***** EXTRACT *****

Your planner

As soon as possible

There are certain things you need to think about before you start booking and planning your wedding. Here are a few points to consider:

* Put together your guest list:

Some venues are restricted on numbers; some may have a minimum or maximum number of people.

* Take note of your budget:

Weddings can easily run away with themselves. Think about what is most important to you on your day and allocate sufficient funds to each part of your wedding.

* What type of wedding do you want?

Do you want a theme? Do you want a small or large wedding? Brainstorm: write down all the things that are important to you and work from this.

Once you have established the above points, book your venue as soon as possible. Remember, if you’re having a church wedding, check the church dates too. If you’re having a civil ceremony you can inform your local registrar twelve months before. Many venues are booked two years in advance, so book as soon as possible to avoid disappointment.

Once you have booked your venue, it’s best to book the following suppliers as many are in demand.

  • Think about sending out ‘save this date’ cards to your guests, they can then work their holidays around your wedding, if needed
  • Order wedding cake
  • Book photographer and videographer
  • Book florist
  • Book music; including what is needed for ceremony, reception and evening
  • Book transport
  • Buy wedding insurance
  • Book any other entertainment i.e. fireworks, magician etc.
  • Choose bridal party
  • Start thinking about your honeymoon
  • Start thinking about your dress and accessories

12-6 months

  • Order your wedding dress / outfit
  • Order bridesmaid dresses / outfits
  • Order stationery
  • Reserve accommodation for guests who are travelling
  • Book your honeymoon

4-5 months

  • Buy accessories, shoes, jewellery, tiara etc.
  • Purchase wedding rings
  • Choose favours
  • Choose gifts for wedding party
  • Purchase or hire groom and male attendant outfits

2-3 months

  • Send out invitations
  • Choose menus
  • Have make-up and hair trial
  • Buy throw-away cameras, guest book and any other bits you need i.e. balloons, candles, ribbon etc.
  • Choose readings, hymns etc.
  • Check with your doctor what injections are needed (if any) for your honeymoon

1 month

  • Final dress / outfit fitting
  • Think about your table plan
  • Start writing table names
  • Assign duties to bridal party
  • It’s a good idea to try and wear your shoes; you don’t want to be uncomfortable on the day. Remember, if you will be wearing your shoes with tights or stockings you need to wear them when trialling your shoes.
  • A quick phone call to your suppliers ensuring they are prepared

1 week – 1 day before

  • Have manicure, fake tan and any other beauty treatments. You may need a massage by this stage!
  • Pick-up your dress/outfit, bridesmaid dresses/outfits, groom and usher attire
  • Rehearse the ceremony
  • Pack for your honeymoon

Your wedding day

  • Relax and enjoy
  • Take in every moment, stop for a while and look around you
  • Breathe in your special day

Day after

It’s a good idea to get together with family and close friends for a small party, this will give you a chance to catch-up and discuss all the things you missed on the day. Believe it or not there will be plenty!


By Calm Weddings

Photo Credit: Elliot McCarthy Dental Care

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A few months back we talked about having the perfect smile for your wedding day. With Christmas coming up, and vouchers available at certain dentists we wondered if you have thought any more about this. We decided to revisit this topic again, as we think so many brides concentrate on so many other ‘wedding things’.

Most brides worry about the way they will look, and concentrate on their make-up, hair and of course, the dress. Some brides even spend a fortune on their shoes. Jimmy Choo being on the top of their list. But how many people are going to see those Jimmy Choos? And how many of your guests will see your beaming smile?

We understand what weddings cost, and it’s important that every bride and groom has the day of their dreams. However, there are so many couples who don’t really appreciate the damage that their teeth has had over the years. Click on this link to find out about the things that can stain your teeth. Have a quick look, you’ll be surprised:

So, if you’ve never had any kind of teeth whitening you are bound to be susceptible to some kind of staining. Think of all the money being spent on your wedding … hopefully, you haven’t collapsed thinking about it too hard! But doesn’t it make sense to look after an area of your body that will be on show the whole of your wedding day, and thereafter. Many things disappear after your wedding, but not your smile.

Elliott McCarthy Dental Care and Indentity Individual Dental Care offer amazing services to bridal couples. They understand the importance of your special day and will help you achieve the best smile possible.

At Calm Weddings and NJAW, we understand this is one of the most important days of your life. We understand you want to look at your photos/video and love the way you look. How nice would it be too get some close-up shots with your sparkling smile? The perfect smile. If you really haven’t put this into your budget, why not ask a family member for a Christmas voucher or ask a close relative/friend for an early wedding present. People generally buy presents before the wedding anyway, this could be added to your list.

Some couples have been known to look back on their wedding day and wonder why they spent so much money in certain areas … treating your smile will not be one of those regrets.

By Calm Weddings

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Your first dance can be quite a daunting task, especially if you have ‘two left feet’ as the saying goes. If you’re not really into dancing, let alone in front of all your family and friends, this supposedly romantic moment could actually fill you with dread. Questions such as, do you shuffle your feet in time with each other? Or do you whisk each other around the room like the next ‘Fred and Ginger’.

The best advice we can give you is to practice. Get used to dancing with each other. Just grab one another randomly and have a smooch. You’ll soon find the more you practice, the less daunting the whole experience will feel.

Many couples take dancing lessons. This is becoming very popular in ensuring your first dance is perfect. It’s also a nice way to connect before and after your wedding. Just make sure this is something you both want. You’ll be investing so much money into your wedding for many things you’ll never see, hold or able to use again. Investing in your first dance is something you can take into your married life together.

There are couples who have ‘jazzed-up’ their first dance by choosing a rap, rock or dance song, rather than a romantic embrace, and they’ve really moved around the dance floor. This type of performance can really get your guests in the mood for the evening reception. If this is the case make sure you let your photographer/videographer know your plans, as this could affect where they put their lighting, or where they position themselves. Obviously the DJ needs to know exactly what you are planning to ensure they are following your timings.

It is important that you plan the music. The song you choose should mean something to you both. The lyrics should, at least, have some resemblance to how you feel.

Once you’ve chosen your song, you’ve decided how you would like your first dance to go (professionally or not) and you are both comfortable with your decision, then it’s all about practising. Dance when and wherever you can together; around the kitchen, in the lounge, in the garden and down the street. Embrace your moves, have fun and enjoy connecting with each other.

If you’re struggling to find a song that you both like or means something to you, we’ve researched some websites that have some great lists of wedding songs. Have a browse and see what you think. We wish you lots of luck.

Marie Claire


Top 100 Dance Wedding Songs

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By Calm Weddings

Photos by Jen Hart

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Planning your wedding can be one of the most exciting times of your life, but try not to become obsessed. You’re probably living, sleeping and dreaming weddings. Look at ways to relax or try a new hobby; don’t let your wedding take over your life.

Best Man

The best man should be the main support for the groom. It’s usually the best man’s responsibility to organise the stag night/weekend, plus deliver a speech after the meal. It should be the groom’s choice who he would like with him throughout the day.


Something you may feel you need lots of throughout the planning of your wedding. However, be very careful as caffeine can give you a ‘temporary high’ but the low can sometimes not be worth it. Caffeine is a stimulant; do you really need any more help in the ‘non-sleeping’ department? Choose a healthier option. Check out Victoria Brown’s blog post on alternatives to caffeine.


Decorations can make your venue look spectacular; decorative flowers, vases, fairy lights, candles or sprinkle the tables with metallic confetti. Make sure you stick with your theme; you could make the venue look like an amazing fairy tale.

walking down aisleEntrance

Everyone will be waiting for the bride’s entrance. Hopefully the following won’t make you nervous but … make sure you make a good entrance, smile politely and don’t chat as you walk down the aisle! Remember, any mutters to your father (or whoever is walking you down the aisle) will be noticed by all. Make sure you tell this to your bridesmaids, as eyes will be scanning dresses, hair and make-up so you don’t need mutters between each other overriding the whole effect. Even if it’s mutters to exchange how nervous you feel, remember everyone will be watching!


Follow your heart rather than following what’s in fashion. Choosing a dress that is in season or a cake that is very popular could mean you don’t have the things that you would truly want or even match with your plans. Go with what suits your personality rather than following a trend.


When it comes to organising weddings, people seem to focus so much on the bride they forget about the person she is marrying. Grooms are usually the first to arrive at the wedding; they will greet guests and wait at the front of the aisle for their bride. It’s a nerve-wracking experience for them too. Give each other as much support as possible. Some grooms may want to get more involved in the planning, so allow them.

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Integrate your hobbies into your wedding day; a football theme, a golf day or your own band playing. Whatever your hobby see how you can make it part of your special day as this will make it unique to you; differentiating your wedding from the other weddings your guests have attended this year.

Ice Breaker

How are you seating your guests? With people they already know or are you using your wedding as an opportunity for people to mix? Sometimes, this can be awkward, so why not devise some ice-breakers? Some ideas; a quiz that involves the whole table, or design a murder mystery per table that can be integrated into the mealtime, or devise a game where each person has to tell the rest of the table something about themselves. Be creative; breaking the ice will help your guests relax. Some guests might not know anyone, therefore ice-breakers are a great way of making those guests feel included. 


Make sure any jewellery you wear matches your outfit. Don’t buy your jewellery until you have sorted out your dress (or wedding attire).


Wedding keys are a fab way of celebrating your love: symbolising that you have the key to each other’s heart. These are great as favours, or used within your theme as name places etc.


Being a good listener is a very good skill to have, not just ‘hearing’ but actually listening. Good listeners will take good advice from others who have planned a wedding. Good listeners increase the success of their marriage, as listening and communicating can be a huge downfall in many marriages!


Waterproof please!

Next Day

Try not to fly off on your honeymoon the day after your wedding. Have a barbecue or a house party with family and close friends and reminisce your wedding day. You may find you don’t get to speak to half of them on the actual day itself, so use the next day wisely.


Don’t become obsessed with your wedding as you will turn into a nervous, boring wreck! Plus, think about life after your wedding, what will you talk about when it’s all over?


Many brides wonder whether they should change their passport name so they are travelling in their married name. It’s easier to travel in your maiden name if you’re honeymooning days or a few weeks after your wedding; proof of marriage is needed and trying to get this beforehand will only add to your other hundred stresses!

Quiet time

Have quiet time with each other that doesn’t relate around wedding talk. You will find as your planning comes together your wedding is the constant topic of conversation. Purposly plan some quiet time in with each other that doesn’t relate to wedding talk.


If you decide to have a civil ceremony and it’s not in your local area, you will still have to register your wedding at your local registry office. Some registry offices will pass your details to the appropriate office, but if not they will explain their procedure. Most counties don’t allow you to register until twelve months before your wedding date.


Many couples don’t have savings these days as mortgages, credit cards and loans take up a lot of money. So don’t worry if you start with nothing, but be very careful with your budget and know where you’re getting the money from. If you can save before your wedding date this would be a great start.

kissing little boyTeeth

Remember your smiles on your photographs. There are many different ways to have a teeth whitening treatment. Check out NJAW list of people who can help you have the perfect smile.


It may rain; unfortunately the weather is not usually a guaranteed service. However, with black and white umbrellas (some companies specialise in wedding umbrellas) you could still be outside and you could get some fantastic photographs.


Having a video of your wedding can be more exciting than the photos, as you can relive the day over and over again. Instead of still pictures you will see the movements, hear the laughter and sense the ambience of the day. Plus, you can experience it again and again whenever you like.


It was once traditional to wear white, today many brides opt for either an ivory or champagne coloured dress. However, don’t be afraid to choose any colour; show off your personality, it’s your day so do as you please.


Hiring a professional yodeller is a great way to entertain your guests. They will have your guests laughing and clapping, this a fun and unique way of getting your guests in the party mood after their meal.


Having a different theme for your wedding is definitely a great way to ensure your guests will remember your special day. A zebra theme is not only a fashionable way forward but definitely fun. You could turn your wedding into a safari adventure, or just integrate black and white into the mix.

By Calm Weddings

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Photo credit: PBL Discos

If you are spending thousands of pounds on your wedding, don’t you want it to stand out from all the other weddings your guests will be attending that year? In fact, don’t you want your guests to remember your wedding for ever?

Do you really want to spend so much money for your day to blend into the mass of weddings your family and friends have attended? So, how can you make your day stand-out from the rest? Well, there are endless things you can do to personalise your wedding, however, today we are going to talk about entertainment.

Entertainment at a wedding? You may ask. But your wedding in essence is a party: a celebration of your love for each other. Making sure you entertain your guests will ensure they will remember your day … and then your money has definitely been well-spent!

So what type of entertainment could you possibly have at your wedding? The list is endless, however, the best place to start is with a brainstorm. A brainstorm will allow you to consider how many guests you have in different age categories, for example: how many children are coming? How many of your guests are elderly. You may have some elderly guests who would prefer to sit in a quiet corner, so try and provide this for them. Place a game of scrabble, a jigsaw or a chess board in the quiet corner.

However, what about the other guests and children? Something as simple as a disco could really set your wedding apart from the others. Really? I hear you ask. Wouldn’t that be similar to what everyone else is doing? Not if you choose the right company and the right music!

Your choice of music and the dancing is what really sets your wedding apart. Get your bridal party to learn a new dance, all take to the dance floor when your first dance is supposed to take place. Wow your guests with your moves.

PBL DiscoPBL Discos have joined NJAW, and what a fantastic company. They understand your wedding is one of the most important and happiest days of your life. They specialise in Wedding Discos so they understand the need for your special day to be perfect. They have an amazing wedding disco package that will fill the dance floor, look great, sound amazing and importantly, be ran in a safe and professional manor.

PBL also offer children’s discos, race nights, Christmas discos and much more. They totally understand their audience. They will work with you to make your wedding as memorable for your guests as it was for you.

Remember, it’s about the laughter, it’s about enjoying one of the most important days of your life, so put those dancing shoes on and have fun!

By Calm Weddings

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There are so many things on your to-do list when it comes to organising your wedding, however, is there anywhere on your list that relates to the way you look?

We don’t mean ‘your wedding make-up’ (although we totally believe the perfect make-up for your wedding day is essential – and advise you check out ‘make-up for your special day’. However we’re talking about your smile: what about the smile you’ll be displaying to your guests all day long and those close-up photos you’ll have on display for the rest of your life!

Your smile is so important.

Your smile will be noticed by many of your guests, in fact more than the paraphernalia that you could spend thousands of pounds on.

elliot mccarthy dentalAt Elliott McCarthy Dental Care they understand the importance of looking good on your wedding day. The day you want your smile to sparkle as much as you.

Knowing the importance of this special day, they are having an Open Evening on the 5th September 2013.

They offer free cosmetic consultations however normally these are with their Treatment Co-Ordinator. On the Open Evening however the two Principal Dentists (Helen Elliott and Pauline McCarthy) are available to discuss the range of treatments available.

On the Open Evening you can discuss with the dentist the range of cosmetic treatments that they offer, don’t worry no examinations take place, just the opportunity to discuss how you can have the perfect smile for your wedding day.

Visit Elliott McCarthy Dental Care for more details on their open evening.

Visit Not Just Any Wedding for more beauty details.