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b2a imageSo your head is full … you’re not only trying to arrange the perfect day, but as most brides you’ll be worrying about the way you look. You will be centre of attention for the whole day. All eyes will be on you from walking down the aisle to dancing the night away with your new hubby, family and friends.

So you’ve picked the perfect dress, all matching accessories, you’re debating which make-up will bring out your glow, you know how your hair will be styled … but for many brides there is that one thing that can seem like the hardest thing in the world … losing weight.

Bride or not, we all want quick results. Something that works efficiently rather than endless hours pounding against a treadmill and actually feeling like we’re not getting anywhere. Brides can really feel the pressure of this: they have a deadline, and although deadlines are usually good, every day a bride slips off her healthy regime is a step further away from having the figure she dreams of for her perfect day. Well, brides all is not lost. It doesn’t have to be such a long drawn out process …

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Katy and Amanda from Believe2Achieve are passionate about helping you look and feel your best whatever your age, shape or level of fitness. They will ensure your programme is tailored to suit your needs.

The results from this programme will not only help you feel more confident before your wedding, but thereafter. These life-changing results will lead you into your married life feeling fantastic about yourself.

By Calm Weddings

Photos by Jen Hart

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Addiction

Planning your wedding can be one of the most exciting times of your life, but try not to become obsessed. You’re probably living, sleeping and dreaming weddings. Look at ways to relax or try a new hobby; don’t let your wedding take over your life.

Best Man

The best man should be the main support for the groom. It’s usually the best man’s responsibility to organise the stag night/weekend, plus deliver a speech after the meal. It should be the groom’s choice who he would like with him throughout the day.

Caffeine

Something you may feel you need lots of throughout the planning of your wedding. However, be very careful as caffeine can give you a ‘temporary high’ but the low can sometimes not be worth it. Caffeine is a stimulant; do you really need any more help in the ‘non-sleeping’ department? Choose a healthier option. Check out Victoria Brown’s blog post on alternatives to caffeine.

Decorations

Decorations can make your venue look spectacular; decorative flowers, vases, fairy lights, candles or sprinkle the tables with metallic confetti. Make sure you stick with your theme; you could make the venue look like an amazing fairy tale.

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Everyone will be waiting for the bride’s entrance. Hopefully the following won’t make you nervous but … make sure you make a good entrance, smile politely and don’t chat as you walk down the aisle! Remember, any mutters to your father (or whoever is walking you down the aisle) will be noticed by all. Make sure you tell this to your bridesmaids, as eyes will be scanning dresses, hair and make-up so you don’t need mutters between each other overriding the whole effect. Even if it’s mutters to exchange how nervous you feel, remember everyone will be watching!

Fashion

Follow your heart rather than following what’s in fashion. Choosing a dress that is in season or a cake that is very popular could mean you don’t have the things that you would truly want or even match with your plans. Go with what suits your personality rather than following a trend.

Groom

When it comes to organising weddings, people seem to focus so much on the bride they forget about the person she is marrying. Grooms are usually the first to arrive at the wedding; they will greet guests and wait at the front of the aisle for their bride. It’s a nerve-wracking experience for them too. Give each other as much support as possible. Some grooms may want to get more involved in the planning, so allow them.

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Hobbies

Integrate your hobbies into your wedding day; a football theme, a golf day or your own band playing. Whatever your hobby see how you can make it part of your special day as this will make it unique to you; differentiating your wedding from the other weddings your guests have attended this year.

Ice Breaker

How are you seating your guests? With people they already know or are you using your wedding as an opportunity for people to mix? Sometimes, this can be awkward, so why not devise some ice-breakers? Some ideas; a quiz that involves the whole table, or design a murder mystery per table that can be integrated into the mealtime, or devise a game where each person has to tell the rest of the table something about themselves. Be creative; breaking the ice will help your guests relax. Some guests might not know anyone, therefore ice-breakers are a great way of making those guests feel included. 

Jewellery

Make sure any jewellery you wear matches your outfit. Don’t buy your jewellery until you have sorted out your dress (or wedding attire).

Key

Wedding keys are a fab way of celebrating your love: symbolising that you have the key to each other’s heart. These are great as favours, or used within your theme as name places etc.

Listening

Being a good listener is a very good skill to have, not just ‘hearing’ but actually listening. Good listeners will take good advice from others who have planned a wedding. Good listeners increase the success of their marriage, as listening and communicating can be a huge downfall in many marriages!

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Waterproof please!

Next Day

Try not to fly off on your honeymoon the day after your wedding. Have a barbecue or a house party with family and close friends and reminisce your wedding day. You may find you don’t get to speak to half of them on the actual day itself, so use the next day wisely.

Obsessed

Don’t become obsessed with your wedding as you will turn into a nervous, boring wreck! Plus, think about life after your wedding, what will you talk about when it’s all over?

Passport

Many brides wonder whether they should change their passport name so they are travelling in their married name. It’s easier to travel in your maiden name if you’re honeymooning days or a few weeks after your wedding; proof of marriage is needed and trying to get this beforehand will only add to your other hundred stresses!

Quiet time

Have quiet time with each other that doesn’t relate around wedding talk. You will find as your planning comes together your wedding is the constant topic of conversation. Purposly plan some quiet time in with each other that doesn’t relate to wedding talk.

Registrar

If you decide to have a civil ceremony and it’s not in your local area, you will still have to register your wedding at your local registry office. Some registry offices will pass your details to the appropriate office, but if not they will explain their procedure. Most counties don’t allow you to register until twelve months before your wedding date.

Savings

Many couples don’t have savings these days as mortgages, credit cards and loans take up a lot of money. So don’t worry if you start with nothing, but be very careful with your budget and know where you’re getting the money from. If you can save before your wedding date this would be a great start.

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Remember your smiles on your photographs. There are many different ways to have a teeth whitening treatment. Check out NJAW list of people who can help you have the perfect smile.

Umbrella

It may rain; unfortunately the weather is not usually a guaranteed service. However, with black and white umbrellas (some companies specialise in wedding umbrellas) you could still be outside and you could get some fantastic photographs.

Videographer

Having a video of your wedding can be more exciting than the photos, as you can relive the day over and over again. Instead of still pictures you will see the movements, hear the laughter and sense the ambience of the day. Plus, you can experience it again and again whenever you like.

White

It was once traditional to wear white, today many brides opt for either an ivory or champagne coloured dress. However, don’t be afraid to choose any colour; show off your personality, it’s your day so do as you please.

Yodelling

Hiring a professional yodeller is a great way to entertain your guests. They will have your guests laughing and clapping, this a fun and unique way of getting your guests in the party mood after their meal.

Zebra

Having a different theme for your wedding is definitely a great way to ensure your guests will remember your special day. A zebra theme is not only a fashionable way forward but definitely fun. You could turn your wedding into a safari adventure, or just integrate black and white into the mix.

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Grease1smallHen parties are about celebrating the bride’s last night of freedom. This night has turned into weekends, and weeks in some cases. However, it did get us wondering at NJAW how the whole hen night tradition actually started. We came across a BBC News article – Where did the hen party explosion come from? A very interesting read. However, we had to agree with the end quote in this article that states: “When it all boils down to it, it’s a very intimate gathering and a sign that you’re one of the chosen and that’s why it’s so special.”

It has become a very popular tradition to visit a city and enjoy the pubs and clubs. However, at NJAW we believe that holding a unique memorable hen party is definitely the way forward.

Below are some amazing companies who can help you have the best hen party ever. These companies will give you and your friends a celebration you’ll never forget.

New-web-banner2The Picture Book Studio hires for events, such as hen parties, the hilarious Picture Book Photo Booth. The lovely attendants ‘Tranny’ and ‘Rosanna’ will give you a make-over18small you’ll remember for ever. This is a great idea for a hen-night. Laughter, fun and captured memories you can keep for ever. However, if you would prefer a more sophisticated celebration, the picture book studio caters especially for hen parties. Their package includes: make-over by a professional hair and make-up artist, bottles of bubbly, plus airbrushing and skin smoothing private online viewing gallery 10 High resolution images on DVD (1 DVD for every person) This is definitely the shoot of a lifetime!!

colour_214House of Colour is a fantastic service that allows women (and men) to understand which colours and styles suit them. This is a great idea for a hen celebration. Not only will all the party be involved in a fun, entertaining day/evening, everyone will learn how they can accentuate their own personal style and look their best on a day-to-day basis. Jill Green was intrigued about the difference colour could make to an individual’s appearance and their confidence, with her 20 years’ experience she loves to show brides and their friends how to look their best for the wedding and thereafter.

lifeLife Fitness is another unique hen party idea, but once again, this is more than a one-off event. You will learn tips and advice that you will be able to carry forward in your everyday life. Sue McKenna is the only mobile Female Weight Loss Coach in the Tees Valley. She will give you a fun, fitness hen party that will have brides and their friends feeling refreshed, revitalised and ready to glow at your wedding.

These are a few ideas that we love at NJAW. We believe the hen party should be a celebration to remember. If you can take something more than a hang-over away with you, then it’s definitely got to be worth thinking about.

Most importantly – have fun! So make sure you do something you will thoroughly enjoy.

WEDDING A to Z by Victoria J.Brown from Calm Weddings

PHOTOS BY JEN HART PHOTOGRAPHY

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Ability 

Can you organise the wedding yourself or do you need or would like some help? You may think hiring a wedding planner is too expensive, but they could actually save you money in the long run. A professional wedding planner will not only show you how to make your day special, but will also have many cost saving tips.

Balance

Sometimes life is one big balancing act. Add a wedding into the equation and you’re bound to feel the pressure. Sit down together and write a plan. Each one of you should have assigned tasks, but also jobs that you can do together. Ensure you talk about other things rather than just your wedding. This will help you both balance between your wedding and your life, as you’ll be amazed how ‘wedding talk’ can take over your world.

Cabaret

Having a cabaret may sound a little cheesy, but hiring the right sort of entertainment can be classy, and even fit in with the very popular vintage theme which seems to be taking the wedding industry by storm at the moment. So if you want something a bit different? Why not entertain your guests with a live show? This would work very well if you’re having a themed wedding.

Dating

You may feel getting married means ‘dating’ each other is over. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Make an extra special night before your wedding to go out on a date. Continue to date each other even when you’re married. It will keep the romance alive.

Elderly

Some of your elderly guests may need wheelchair access or just a quiet place to sit and relax away from the hustle and bustle. Remember this when checking out venues.

Family

Your families could be so excited you’re getting married, or perhaps they’re so laid back you think they don’t care. Whatever type of family you have, work with them and try not to take any comments personally. Even if your sister is not bothered about being a bridesmaid or your mother thinks it’s her wedding. Remember this day is about the two of you, however, listening to others, understanding their personalities and opinions, can help the planning and day go much smoother.

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Gallery

A great entrance to your venue is a gallery of photos; photos of the two of you growing up, ending in pictures of the two of you together. A bit like a ‘life-story’. Give your guests something to chat about. Ice-breaking can be very important at weddings, and this idea may give your guests an opportunity to build a rapport with each other.

Hankies

Hankies will probably be needed by most of your family and friends. So why not add something a little special to your day? Have your initials and the date of your wedding embroidered into the corner of white fresh hankies. Then hand them out at the entrance of the church or venue. This could be an alternative to having favours.

Improvise

Be creative. If you can’t afford the huge expensive dress, look at the options available to you and see how you can make it similar. This stands for anything relating to your wedding; use your imagination and make it special to you.

Journal

Keep a journal as this way you can look back in years to come and laugh (or cry!) about the lead up to your wedding. Your children (and grand-children) will love it.

Keepsake

Keep everything and anything relating to your wedding that fills you with warmth. Buy a keepsake box or make your own and keep your wedding valuables secure.

Language

If you’re having a mixed cultured marriage, it’s important to think about the language barriers (if any). Do you need invitations, order of services or menus in two different languages? It’s polite to consider and respect each other’s family members, especially their beliefs.

Meal

Try your wedding meal before the day arrives. You can’t expect your guests to munch through a meal if you don’t particularly like it.

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Names

Using names has become a popular way of labelling tables instead of using numbers. Use a hobby or stick with the theme of your wedding. Football names, celebrity names, soaps, film names, places you have travelled, hobbies etc. are all just a start. Be creative.

Old

Traditionally it is said ‘something old’ links to the relationship with the bride’s family. It represents continuity, in particular focusing on past relationships with mother and grandmother. Therefore, it is common to wear an item of jewellery belonging to the family.

Perfection

Is there such a thing? This word is more than likely to be on your mind when arranging your day. Most of your guests will see it as perfect; remember this if anything goes wrong on the day. Most people will not notice if anything strays from your line of perfection.

Quality time

Make sure you spend quality time together on your wedding day. You’ll be surprised how you will both be passed from pillar to post, and before you know it the day is over and you haven’t seen each other. Make a point of meeting each other at different intervals throughout the day. Carry the quality time rule into your marriage; enjoy and appreciate your time together as this will help your marriage work.

Receiving Line

Having a receiving line is a good idea, as it allows you to say thank you to all your guests and not worry about running around to see them all. Usually a receiving line includes the two of you, both sets of parents, bridesmaids, best man and ushers. However, it’s your choice, you may decide to have just the two of you or the two of you and your parents.

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Saturdays

Saturdays have become the most popular day to get married. If you would prefer a Saturday in the peak summer season, make sure you book early. However, Fridays and Sundays are becoming increasingly popular, and are much cheaper. If you’re wanting an intimate but cost-effective wedding, holding your wedding during the week can often half the cost.

Talents

Do you have any family members or friends who have special talents? Perhaps cake making, icing or flower arranging; use them to your advantage, weddings are expensive enough.

Unique

Your day is unique to you, but not necessarily to your guests who may be attending five other weddings, not only in the same year but in the same month! Making certain that your day is distinctive will make it even more special for you and for them. This doesn’t have to cost a fortune, but putting thought into your personalities and bringing this out in your day, can help define your wedding from others.

Venue

You may have many choices when it comes to choosing your wedding venue. Make yourself a checklist, or download the calm wedding venue checklist, and take this with you to every venue that you view and don’t be afraid to ask any questions.

Water

Ask someone to have bottled water available for you at all times, you may be surprised at how dry your mouth becomes, not to mention how hot you could be. Being dehydrated could lead to headaches. (Obviously, not something you want to be worrying about on your special day).

X-factor

Give your wedding the X-factor by making it special for everyone who attends. Think outside the box and deliver a day full of fun, activity and enjoyment!

Year

The year you get married will probably be the most memorable to you, so why not keep a collection of life events for that year? Include invitations to other weddings, photos of friends who may have had babies or friends who have got engaged; keep little mementos that you can cherish forever.

Zodiac

Use the zodiac as part of your favours; provide your guests with the meaning of their star sign as it’s a good conversation starter. If you’re not sure of their birthday, ask for it in your invitations. Struggling for an ice breaker, zodiac cards should do the trick!

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