By Calm Weddings

Photos by Jen Hart

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Addiction

Planning your wedding can be one of the most exciting times of your life, but try not to become obsessed. You’re probably living, sleeping and dreaming weddings. Look at ways to relax or try a new hobby; don’t let your wedding take over your life.

Best Man

The best man should be the main support for the groom. It’s usually the best man’s responsibility to organise the stag night/weekend, plus deliver a speech after the meal. It should be the groom’s choice who he would like with him throughout the day.

Caffeine

Something you may feel you need lots of throughout the planning of your wedding. However, be very careful as caffeine can give you a ‘temporary high’ but the low can sometimes not be worth it. Caffeine is a stimulant; do you really need any more help in the ‘non-sleeping’ department? Choose a healthier option. Check out Victoria Brown’s blog post on alternatives to caffeine.

Decorations

Decorations can make your venue look spectacular; decorative flowers, vases, fairy lights, candles or sprinkle the tables with metallic confetti. Make sure you stick with your theme; you could make the venue look like an amazing fairy tale.

walking down aisleEntrance

Everyone will be waiting for the bride’s entrance. Hopefully the following won’t make you nervous but … make sure you make a good entrance, smile politely and don’t chat as you walk down the aisle! Remember, any mutters to your father (or whoever is walking you down the aisle) will be noticed by all. Make sure you tell this to your bridesmaids, as eyes will be scanning dresses, hair and make-up so you don’t need mutters between each other overriding the whole effect. Even if it’s mutters to exchange how nervous you feel, remember everyone will be watching!

Fashion

Follow your heart rather than following what’s in fashion. Choosing a dress that is in season or a cake that is very popular could mean you don’t have the things that you would truly want or even match with your plans. Go with what suits your personality rather than following a trend.

Groom

When it comes to organising weddings, people seem to focus so much on the bride they forget about the person she is marrying. Grooms are usually the first to arrive at the wedding; they will greet guests and wait at the front of the aisle for their bride. It’s a nerve-wracking experience for them too. Give each other as much support as possible. Some grooms may want to get more involved in the planning, so allow them.

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Hobbies

Integrate your hobbies into your wedding day; a football theme, a golf day or your own band playing. Whatever your hobby see how you can make it part of your special day as this will make it unique to you; differentiating your wedding from the other weddings your guests have attended this year.

Ice Breaker

How are you seating your guests? With people they already know or are you using your wedding as an opportunity for people to mix? Sometimes, this can be awkward, so why not devise some ice-breakers? Some ideas; a quiz that involves the whole table, or design a murder mystery per table that can be integrated into the mealtime, or devise a game where each person has to tell the rest of the table something about themselves. Be creative; breaking the ice will help your guests relax. Some guests might not know anyone, therefore ice-breakers are a great way of making those guests feel included. 

Jewellery

Make sure any jewellery you wear matches your outfit. Don’t buy your jewellery until you have sorted out your dress (or wedding attire).

Key

Wedding keys are a fab way of celebrating your love: symbolising that you have the key to each other’s heart. These are great as favours, or used within your theme as name places etc.

Listening

Being a good listener is a very good skill to have, not just ‘hearing’ but actually listening. Good listeners will take good advice from others who have planned a wedding. Good listeners increase the success of their marriage, as listening and communicating can be a huge downfall in many marriages!

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Waterproof please!

Next Day

Try not to fly off on your honeymoon the day after your wedding. Have a barbecue or a house party with family and close friends and reminisce your wedding day. You may find you don’t get to speak to half of them on the actual day itself, so use the next day wisely.

Obsessed

Don’t become obsessed with your wedding as you will turn into a nervous, boring wreck! Plus, think about life after your wedding, what will you talk about when it’s all over?

Passport

Many brides wonder whether they should change their passport name so they are travelling in their married name. It’s easier to travel in your maiden name if you’re honeymooning days or a few weeks after your wedding; proof of marriage is needed and trying to get this beforehand will only add to your other hundred stresses!

Quiet time

Have quiet time with each other that doesn’t relate around wedding talk. You will find as your planning comes together your wedding is the constant topic of conversation. Purposly plan some quiet time in with each other that doesn’t relate to wedding talk.

Registrar

If you decide to have a civil ceremony and it’s not in your local area, you will still have to register your wedding at your local registry office. Some registry offices will pass your details to the appropriate office, but if not they will explain their procedure. Most counties don’t allow you to register until twelve months before your wedding date.

Savings

Many couples don’t have savings these days as mortgages, credit cards and loans take up a lot of money. So don’t worry if you start with nothing, but be very careful with your budget and know where you’re getting the money from. If you can save before your wedding date this would be a great start.

kissing little boyTeeth

Remember your smiles on your photographs. There are many different ways to have a teeth whitening treatment. Check out NJAW list of people who can help you have the perfect smile.

Umbrella

It may rain; unfortunately the weather is not usually a guaranteed service. However, with black and white umbrellas (some companies specialise in wedding umbrellas) you could still be outside and you could get some fantastic photographs.

Videographer

Having a video of your wedding can be more exciting than the photos, as you can relive the day over and over again. Instead of still pictures you will see the movements, hear the laughter and sense the ambience of the day. Plus, you can experience it again and again whenever you like.

White

It was once traditional to wear white, today many brides opt for either an ivory or champagne coloured dress. However, don’t be afraid to choose any colour; show off your personality, it’s your day so do as you please.

Yodelling

Hiring a professional yodeller is a great way to entertain your guests. They will have your guests laughing and clapping, this a fun and unique way of getting your guests in the party mood after their meal.

Zebra

Having a different theme for your wedding is definitely a great way to ensure your guests will remember your special day. A zebra theme is not only a fashionable way forward but definitely fun. You could turn your wedding into a safari adventure, or just integrate black and white into the mix.

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